On January 6th, 2010 Alex suffered a gunshot wound to the head...given 3 HOURS TO LIVE ....this is our story of survival and how God continues to work in and through our lives!

Monday, June 13, 2011


It feels like just yesterday he was graduating kindergarten only now it's the real deal..... momma's boy has finally earned his high school diploma and you know I couldn't be prouder, especially after all he has been thru!!  Our day started out with having to be at graduation practice at the Veterans Memorial Arena bright and early at 7am! As I started driving down the highway the tears began to fall.... I was taking Alex to his high school graduation practice and it was all coming so fast!  I had been waiting for this day and praying that Alex would be able to complete the necessary courses to get to this point and he did it!  He did it with a 2.58 GPA none the less!!! Needless to say Alex was WAY OVER STIMULATED and crazy as ever!  He was very very excited and it was a bit hard for him to contain himself as the rehearsal began.  Cracking jokes and spitting every 5 seconds (his new OCD habit or nervous tick, which ever you wanna call it).  He practiced with the usher... rolling out and going to his spot on the floor.  Once they ran thru the process a couple of times it was time for Alex to practice rolling up the ramp and walking across the floor.  I wanted him to get a feel for how long the walk would be prior to actually doing it.  Sooo, the usher rolled him up the ramp, he moved his leg rests and up he went.... walked half way across the stage and then sat back in his chair.  Of course everyone went crazy because no one from school has ever witnessed him walking, lol!  I on the other hand was NOT IMPRESSED the least bit because I felt like he was being lazy!! I knew he could have walked across the whole stage...... sooooo I had a little pep talk with him and told him he needed to step up his game!!!  We left practice at 9:00 and rushed home to get him showered and gussied up for the big event to be back at 11:15 so family and friends could get pics with miracle boy before the ceremony.  As everyone crowded around I took pics of Alex with all of his graduating class.... told him to "show out" and then sent him off with his buddies so that we could go inside and grab good seats so I could get him walking across that stage.  We headed in and got the perfect seats.... just to the left of the stage where when he walked he would be walking towards us... perfect for video and pics!  As we were sitting in our seats all of a sudden here comes Alex and he has his friend wheeling him towards us..... stinker had told them he had to go to the bathroom so that they would let him come and find us, lol!  That was only the first of 4 times he came out until graduation began.  The last time out, he really really had to go and I was told we had 8 minutes until showtime!!!  Here I go running down the stairs.... running with him in the chair.... OMG you have your gown on... praying to God it doesn't get in the toilet as I'm trying to square him on the toilet to sit with all this clothing he has on.... sweating, panting.... rushing (THERE IS NO RUSHING ALEX) I don't know why I try, lol!  I think I work myself up more by trying to rush him because I get frustrated and Alex only has one speed.... HIS!  Off the toilet, in the chair..... off he goes..... this was it.....THE GOLDEN MOMENT!!  I get back to my seat in the nick of time and here comes the pomp and circumstance music and MR. ALEX!!

Escorted by his childhood buddy Sammy Alvarez.......Cane in his hand...pumping it in the air..... gotta love that kid!!!    Sammy put him in his spot and the Alex show began! OMG..... I should have known that an hour and 15 minutes would turn into 2 hours and I should have known what to expect from Mr. Crazy himself!  He sat there waving, flicking Nick off (because he had the video camera), making faces.... My little 4 year old was in FULL SWING!!  When you watch the video, I apologize in advance to anyone he offends as he thought he was being funny with his older brother videoing him not realizing that EVERYONE in the Arena as well as ANYONE watching the video was going to see.  HE LIVES IN THE MOMENT....sometimes that is good and sometimes well.... not so much, lol!  It is who he is today.... still learning behaviors of what is socially acceptable and what is not....when to speak the truth and when to keep things to yourself.... there still is no filter or inhibition.... hopefully in time the brain will continue to heal and that will be repaired as well.  If not... we are in for a LONG ride folks!!  2 hours is a very long time for anyone to sit still... especially someone with a traumatic brain injury of his caliber.  I'm not by any means making excuses for him.... only trying to make you understand that he actually did REALLY WELL considering his conception of time and sitting still is at about 25 minutes right now.  Any who... as we are sitting there watching Alex and all of his antics.... the security waves me down and I figure that Alex must have to go to the bathroom so I head on down.  As I get to him.... he informs me that Alex's behavior is getting a little out of hand and he thinks maybe I need to pull him out for a second and let him regroup!  OMG.... is this really happening!!  I walk over to the other side of the arena behind the stage and this lady comes up to me and asks me about his spitting.  I have to explain that yes this is one of his nervous ticks and the more attention I bring to it... the more he does it.  She is ok with that and says not to worry about that but could I please get him to stop "MOOING LIKE A COW" yes...you heard that right and could I get him to stop "FLICKING HIS FRIENDS OFF BEHIND HIM".... because it was just a little distracting to the people in the seats.  OMG... I wanted to crawl under a rock lol!  Security found me a nice little seat on the floor only 15feet from Alex and I gave him the LOOK OF  A MAD WOMAN, told him to get it together or he was outta there!  I then sent security over to tell him and reinforce because I figured he would listen to them better than he would me for sure!  He looked at me, said OK "go back to your seat and take pics...I'll be good"...I gave him the benefit of the doubt, said a prayer, apologized to everyone around and headed back to my seat.  Amazingly.... He contained himself enough to get him thru everyone's speeches and finally the moment we had all been waiting for!

Tears filled our eyes, disbelief at seeing him walk the distance he did and without missing a beat!!  WHO IS THAT KID IN THE VIDEO? You see him pause and talk to the principle Mr. Simmons... He was asking if he could speak! hahahahaha!!  Brother Joe usually gives up the microphone at church on Wednesdays so Alex can have his say... usually a prayer or a bible quote, lol!  Now he thinks that he can speak any where we go!!  Alex received a standing ovation and he LOVED every minute of it!  God showed up with him that day... giving him the energy, strength and will power to walk up, across, down and back to his spot that he originally started.  I can't even begin to explain what I was feeling.... there are no words to describe the happiness and the sadness I was feeling all at the same time!  I truly could NOT BELIEVE how very far he walked and how great he did WITHOUT A CANE OR A WHEELCHAIR.... INCREDIBLE!!!  His physical therapists were all really  impressed and very pleased with how good he did and with his endurance!  So much that Erica said "NO CANE" at therapy on Thursday!! YOU DON'T NEED IT!   He still has a very long way to go.... especially cognitively speaking but when I look back to a year and a half ago where we were:

GOD HAS BEEN WITH US EVERY STEP OF THE WAY...... YOU'VE WITNESSED IT.... YOU BEST BELIEVE IT!!!  I never would have imagined this day was possible on January 6,2010 but God had a different plan.... John 11:4 "When he heard this, Jesus said, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.”
Thank You God for one more day with my handsome boy and for choosing him for the miracle of his life and a second chance at life.  It certainly hasn't been easy and the life we live is certainly a different one with many challenges and obstacles each day.  I refuse to focus on the negatives.... the positives are endless and our glass is half full ALWAYS!!  I said earlier that Alex lives in the moment and maybe we should all do a little more of that.... enjoy and be thankful for what we have and what we are doing at this very moment.  Enjoy our children more and focus less on the negative things they do.... focus on the positives and maybe we'll see more of that come out in the long run.  I know Alex responds way more to positive reinforcement than negative..... I think you can see that in his recovery progress.   Charles Swindoll said it best: The longer I live, the more I realize the impact with attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change the past... We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge with our attitudes. 

I've said it before and I will say it over and over again.... ONE PHONE CALL CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE..... whether it is YOU or someone very close to you.... you will be affected in some sort of way.  It's a domino effect.  Don't take for granted what you have..... say "I love you" everyday to those who are special and close to your heart..... Cherish every day and moment as if it were your last.... LIVE IN THE MOMENT.... Hug those babies and give them every second of attention that you can.... they just want our love and approval, is that really so much to ask??  Leave the clothes in the dryer, the dishes in the sink, the bed  unmade.... sit and read a book together, or watch their favorite movie with them..... tomorrow is a gift and can be taken away in a second.  If you don't know Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior.... or if you are doubting there is even a God.  HE IS VERY REAL.... HE PERFORMS MIRACLES DAILY IN OUR LIVES...... don't wait till tomorrow to get right with God.... the reality is that tomorrow may be too late!!  Alex doesn't even realize how many lives he has touched and how many people he has brought to God.  BLESSINGS UPON BLESSINGS!!  I would give anything to go back and get a redo..... but that is not an option.  I must deal with the cards that have been dealt.  God doesn't give us more than we can handle......My cup is overflowing.  But I am in charge of my attitude and I choose to see rainbows and sunshine.  We have missed out on A LOT of stuff....  Jr prom, homecoming weeks....friday night football games.... senior year....basketball games...... high school baseball, dreams of playing college ball but we have also gained A LOT.  My son is alive.... no, he will never be the same Alex that I miss terribly.... but he is alive.... he is still handsome as ever to me..... he is witty....he loves his family and friends....... HE IS ALIVE....ALIVE....ALIVE.....AAAAAAAAAAAANND a High School graduate...CAN I GET AN AMEN!!!

YOU DID IT ALEX..... You really did it and I couldn't be more honored to call you my son today than prior to Jan 6, 2010.  You can do anything you set your mind to do and I will be here for you every step of the way.... cheering you on, holding your hand and pushing you to be the best that I know you can be!  CONGRATULATIONS SWEET BOY..... You have so much to be proud of.  Never doubt yourself... keep reaching for the stars and remember that God has a special plan for you!!  I am sooooo excited and can't wait to see what great things he has in store for  you!!


Friday, June 10, 2011


Well we are graduated and I have sooo much to blog about only I need some IT guru help from any of you out there that know how to upload DVD to youtube or other website so I can share the video with all of you.  GOD SHOWED UP ONCE AGAIN and YOU GOTTA SEE IT TO BELIEVE IT!!!  Incredible and words can't even describe what I am dying to share with those of you who didn't get to be there!  Sooooooooooo .... if there are any experts out there who know how to get this DVD uploaded PLEASE EMAIL ME so that I can get this video OUT THERE!!  Thank you mucho!!!

I also have urgent prayer request for a 3 and 5 year old that were in a very serious car accident.... 5 year old just had to undergo brain surgery.... PLEASE LIFT THESE CHILDREN UP IN PRAYER!  Lord I ask that you be with these children and their parents as they go thru this very difficult time.  Please wrap your arms around them and bring them a peace that they can only find in you and trusting in their faith.  I pray that you be with the surgeons and guide their hands as they perform their life saving tasks..... I pray that you heal those babies from the top of their heads to the tip of their toes..... I PRAY THIS IN JESUS NAME.... AMEN!!!!




Tuesday, June 7, 2011


So proud of my handsome boy and I am bursting at the seams to share these pics with you.....GOD IS GOOD MY FRIENDS... GOD IS SOOOO GOOD!!

 These are some of his oldest friends..... all graduated from different schools but I wanted some pics of them all together as they venture onto new horizons.  Old friends are always some of the best friends and I am truly thankful for the friendships we have in the kids as well as their parents.... LOVE YA'LL!!

 As I stated on FB.... we thank you God that his personality is still in tact!  HE IS A HOT MESS FOR SURE!

 Randi is back for graduation.....Kristen will be on her way tomorrow :0)

 Dax...one of those old childhood buddies.... proud of you and Alex and glad that he gets to graduate with you!!

 Amanda.... thank you for keeping me in sync and up to date with Ed White and their activities.  You are truly special, Alex is lucky to have you as a friend and I wish you the best on your new journey in life. xoxo :0)

 Kinlin and Brandon... thank you for always taking time out of your busy days to be at my kids functions..LOVE YA'LL!!

Irene....it hasn't been easy raising these boys but one thing is for sure....THEY KNOW HOW MUCH WE LOVE EM!  Love you my friend!

Alex is already tired of taking pictures....LORD GRANT HIM SOME PEACE because Wednesday it's SHOWTIME and the CAMERA WILL BE CLICKING!!



Monday, June 6, 2011

Graduation is right around the corner!

Soooo many emotions running wild this past week with graduation coming up especially since attending one of his friends, Skylar's graduation party.  I have so much to be thankful for and I know this but it was very painful for me to watch him have to sit and WATCH his friends do everything that he can't on the huge jumpy slide with water and soap.... ONE OF HIS FAVORITE past times.  It took everything I had to keep the tears from falling.... wishing he could be doing all that he SHOULD be doing and partaking in his Senior year of high school... which is supposed to be one of the best moments in his life....graduation and the parties that go along with it!!  I am soooo proud of all that he has accomplished and he HAS come so far in a year and a half but the humanity in me makes me soooo sad for him.  It's so hard to explain and I surely don't mean to sound ungrateful for what we have been given.....but I'm a mom... with a huge heart and my heart aches for him when I see all of his friends having the fun that he can't.  Now... if you ask Alex..... he had a great time, lol!  THANK YOU GOD FOR THAT!  My brain injured child doesn't even look at things the way I do.... HE inspires me!  He wasn't sad that he couldn't go up that slide.... all he was worried about was going in the pool and EATING, lol!  It's times like this weekend that I am truly thankful he doesn't have emotions.

Today we practice at 9:45 for his bacclaurette and then the service is tonight at 6:45 at Most Holy Redeemer Catholic Church.  For those of you that have written me and were hoping to go to graduation, I'm sorry but tickets are very limited and I've had to get some  from other students so that all of our family can go. However..... tonights service may be your chance to witness a small part of his graduation by attending this.  Please pray that he can sit for an hour thru this service with no major interruptions.... I will probably be on edge the whole time lol!

Stay tuned this week... I will post grad pics and hope to post video from graduation!  Wednesday is going to be one of the most memorable days in our lives and I'm so proud of you Alex Michael Ross!  Phillipians 4:13..... AMEN!!!


Thursday, June 2, 2011


With no more school work to complete, no more tests to take, Alex has been focusing on therapy and being able to walk by himself across that stage and get that diploma!  I  spoke with his occupational therapist last week in regards to his left hand/arm and wanted to know if he would ever fully get that functionality back. Her answer was that it all depended on if that part of the brain repaired itself...... certainly not something I wanted to hear and I somewhat became discouraged.  UNTIL YESTERDAY.... WHEN GOD SHOWED UP AGAIN!!!  With Alex's hard work and God's unending blessings.....ME, ALEX & JC GOT THIS FOR SURE!!  AMAZING...AMAZING ... AMAZING!  That left arm and hand did what it was supposed to do!!!

He still continues to work hard at walking ..... he tells me he has a double date on Monday... well double meaning him and two girls lol!  amazing what that incentive can do to put a little pep in his step and to push himself a little harder!  I truly hope these girls are serious and he does get to go on his date.....if not, I will be one HOT MOMMA..... and I don't mean in a good way, lol!

Graduation is a week away and it will truly be one of the best most memorable days of our lives!  I promise to video and post for all to see the glorious works of our GOD and the miracles that he continues to work in and thru my handsome boy!  Thank you all for your  prayers and support..... please continue to pray for Alex that his brain does heal those parts that we need to get that left arm back to full functionality.  God has done so much in such a short amount of time with Alex and I am putting all my faith in him once again that he will continue his work and WE WILL HAVE A FULL RECOVERY..... in HIS time!  THANK YOU GOD.....GIVING YOU ALL THE HONOR, GLORY AND PRAISE THAT YOU SO DESERVE!  AMEN!